How to Make a Better BDSM Profile That Will Get the Attention That You’re Looking For

Profile ExampleThere are important steps to take to make a better BDSM profile that is more likely to get more views from fellow spankos and BDSM players. There are also some very important do not’s that should be considered for a profile to stay relevant. To start, we will talk about the best practices of your Kinky profile.

Why do You Have a BDSM Profile?

The internet phenomenon has opened infinite possibilities to the human race. One contingent that has benefitted greatly to this open space is the world of kink.

Social sites like collarspace.com, once collarme.com, FetLife, Spanko.net, and more are popping up all over the internet. When these sites first started, it was all about Yahoo Groups, IRC chat, and similar points of contact. One thing that many of these sites have in common is that profiles are often fraught with horrible content.

One of the most important considerations to start with on your quest for a better profile is “Why are you here?” The answer to this question may seem obvious, but it really isn’t.

People on BDSM Social sites are there for an enormous and highly diverse set of reasons. Of course, it may seem obvious that the majority of them are there to meet like-minded people to play with. However, the variety of people, organizations, businesses, and other groups which find their place in the kinky realm is vast. So, to really answer the question, here a few reasons why someone might have a BDSM profile on a kinky website.

  • Finding a play partner(s) – This is obvious, but there is nowhere better to meet kinky people online than on a social website.
  • Finding friends – When you have a deviant mind, you want to meet other people who are also deviant. It’s hard to explain to Kevin at the watercooler that you love to take an extra large dildo in your ass while a transexual school girl flogs you. It doesn’t have the same ring to it, for Kevin, and it might cost you your job.
  • Gaining Attention and Group Members…for your group – There are almost as many kinky groups online as there are people. You can find things like “gay men who like spanking each other,” “Domestic Discipline Society,” “Men who love anal,” and a whole lot more. Building a profile for a group is important to gather interest and recruit members.
  • Raising support or awareness – There are actually a number of groups out there who are looking to provide support for our community. Given the number of close-minded, self-ignorant people out there who think that anal sex is a sin and spanking your wife is simply sexist and rude, or who find the thought of homosexuality to be the Devil’s work, the amount of protest and anti-kink push-back is immense. Religious groups, legal groups, misinformed public, and more, are all out to end our fun because somehow they believe they have been given the right to moral policing.

Now, on a side note, some of these “support” groups are really not out to help anyone. Some well known organizations are really geared towards raising a fan base so that they can provide “kink-friendly” folks with a place to advertise.

On the other hand, there are actually many groups that are fighting for the freedom of sex and who want to see prejudice at the hands of morons abolished. They are bid good luck, as stupidity is not always curable.

  • Marketing and Advertising – Guilty as charged, sir! Spanking Studios is a fine example of marketing at work. We cater to an audience of spankos who also love painal sex. Thus, we have put ourselves out there to gain awareness of our brand. Our video trailers can be seen on a number of websites, and our blogs are here to peak your interest and let you know that we know that your needs are real and we’re here to help. See a need; fill a need.

Now, the majority of individuals that you find on kinky websites comprise two groups. The first, and hopefully the majority, are the real people looking for other real people. The second, unfortunately, are robots, or software programs which go about pretending to be people in order to collect information, spread malware and adware, or convince some schmuck to pay hundreds of dollars for the chance to meet a fake girl. (I refer to Ashley Madison. That one really takes the cake.)

Rules to Follow to Improve Your BDSM Profile

This article is for the majority of real people looking to find and possibly meet other real people. There is a huge need for correction of several profiles and, while all people are beautiful, some things may get a more desirable response than others. So, here are some rules to go by.

#1 NO DICK PICS!!

Seriously! Put that thing away before somebody gets hurt! You might just poke an eye out and THEN WHAT!?

Nobody wants to see your junk. Especially the really hot girl that you might have a small chance to ever meet. She is NOT looking for your penis. No matter what you think, or may have heard, and I’m speaking for the whole internet here, nobody wants to see your goddamned cock!

Let me make this point as absolutely clear as possible: NOBODY WANTS TO SEE YOUR FUCKING PENIS!! I don’t. She doesn’t. They don’t. No one. Zip. Zilch. Mother fucking nada.

There is a SINGLE exception. If you’re showing off your whole body because you’re ripped, chiseled like Arnold Schwarzenegger at the juice bar, and I mean 3% body fat, and benching a girl’s volleyball team, Magic Mike naked, 1974 Sean Connery playing James Bond and fucking Zha Zha Gabor… then, and ONLY THEN, can you get away with having your dick hanging free and erect for all to see. It better be a fucking prop which supports the rest of your sweaty, oily, superman beach body. THAT’S IT!!

Moving on…

#2 Post More than One Picture that Features Yourself

This should be your real self. If you’re morbidly obese with an oxygen mask, this is especially true. If you think that posting a picture of Brad Pitt’s body and a Photoshopped cutout of your face is going to trick a hot blonde into fucking you, think again. Guys and girls who may want a piece of your ass don’t want to be tricked and they sure as hell aren’t going to fall for your bullshit when they see you in person.

People are online to meet other real people. They have a BDSM p

 

rofile because they want to be seen and they clicked on your BDSM profile because they want to see you. The real you. Not stud-muffin Brad. If you’re embarrassed to show yourself, at least have the courtesy to post something intelligent and informational, but make sure that you post pictures of some kind.

The dirty secret no one has told all of the anonymous guys cheating on their wives, or girls cheating on their husbands, or guys cheating on their husbands… you get the idea… If you don’t have a profile picture, it’s assumed that you’re hiding something. If you go around trying to chat people up and send out blind friend requests and you don’t have a profile picture, not to mention something about yourself in the “About” section, people are going to be suspicious. This is not a good way to make a good first impression.

The most effective picture that you can provide is a good picture of yourself, face and body, that shows who you really are. Naked or not, it doesn’t always matter, but if people don’t see you, they don’t know you and they won’t trust your. Period.

#3 Fill out your profile information.

The more that you put here, the more people will believe you. That being said, there is a limit on content, and some things are better left unsaid.

The most critical information is as follows:

  • What is your relationship status? Don’t be ambiguous or try to be mysterious. Seriously, if you’re a married man looking for a lady to cheat on his wife with, you will save yourself and many others a great deal of pain by simply stating that truth. Everyone will respect that, even if they think you’re a lying, cheating sack of shit. Give them the courtesy of knowing the truth. And, yes, there are people out there looking for cheaters.
  • What are you looking for? Are you looking for friends, a play partner, a long term lover, or an addition to your polyamorous household? Let people know what you want up front. If you have a fantasy of being covered in cheesecake and having a woman scrape it off with her teeth, just say so. That lady isn’t going to find you if you don’t tell everyone what you want.

Furthermore, be detailed about what you want and what you’re looking for. This is especially true if you’re looking for sexual and/or romantic partners. The shortest distance between two points is a straight line, and gets you there faster than getting to the point.

  • If you have a website, or a webcam, or videos of yourself posted somewhere, your profile is a great place to put this. People are often looking for as much of you as they can find before they make contact. That may not always be true for the endless line of lonely guys out there looking for human contact, but if you’re truly seeking another person, show them who you are.
  • Respect everyone’s privacy. While showing everyone who you are is critical to forming an up front, fully open relationship with people, never, ever break the privacy boundaries. If you’re friends with Daryl and he just happens to go by Queenie_Jay, don’t out him. Even if he says it’s cool, it’s not. Let him out himself.
  • Fetlife.com has a whole section on every profile available for stating your various kinks. Make it a point to list everything that you’re looking for.

#4 Post your Writing, Pics, and Videos if You Want to get Attention

The more that you put out there, the more the internet recognizes you as a contributor and the more it will tell everyone about it.

The Google phenomenon has almost entirely overcome the internet. The Google search engine accounts for almost 64% of all web searches, according to an article in Search Engine Land. Google does a lot behind the scenes, including tracking your internet presence. The more you show up, the more people see you. The more you say something, the more people will read what you have to say.

Stay active on the websites that you post a BDSM profile on and you will be rewarded with attention. Keep things interesting and people will be more interested in getting to know you.

Summing Up Your BDSM Profile

So, there you have it. This may not be the definitive list, but these are some good rules to follow if you want to hook up.

If you’re interested in hooking up with Spanking Studios, you can always find us on Fetlife.com at SpankingStudios. Drop us a line and let us know you’re out there!